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Our Black Ancestry: A Personal Story
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by: Lisa Earle McLeod
When my friend Diana told me about her family legacy, I was stunned. But no more stunned than when she discovered it herself. Here, in her own words, is Diana Roman’s story:
My mother’s frequent phrase was, "There, but for the grace of God, go I." It's engraved on her headstone. As an adult, I now realize that she was trying to teach me about empathy.
Few people can empathize more with Ben Affleck’s embarrassment about his slave-owning ancestors than me. I’m descended from a family that is said to have owned the most slaves in American history. Over a 200-year period, my ancestors enslaved more than 10,000 people on 43 plantations in three states. I first discovered this family history about 10 years ago; I remain in horrified awe of the size and scope of the family "business."
Am I responsible for their behavior? Not at all. But I am accountable to the legacy of what they did. I inherit their story and can either choose to ignore it or to use it to create something positive.
Even though it's 2015, slavery is still "the big ugly" that most white folks don't want to deal with. It was recently revealed that Ben Affleck asked PBS not to include his own slave-owning ancestry, in his segments for TV genealogy show, Finding Your Roots. He later rationalized his request, saying that he was embarrassed.
Why is the mere mention of slavery still so inflammatory? Is it really about
slavery? Or is it actually about the current state of affairs for
African-Americans in our society today? Is the taboo rooted in discussion that
we know we should be having, but that we don't want to have?
It's our national dysfunction. This is the dialogue we are all trying to avoid. Yet when we avoid the conversation that we need to be having about race, we rob ourselves of the cure that we so desperately want.
I understand why Ben Affleck didn't want to open that dark chamber. There is still so much darkness about slavery and the racism that it engendered in our society. But the current conundrum beckons the thought: Instead of trying to run from the darkness, we should be turning on the light.
Lisa Earle McLeod is a sales leadership consultant. Companies like Apple, Kimberly-Clark and Pfizer hire her to help them create passionate, purpose-driven sales forces. She the author of several books including Selling with Noble Purpose: How to Drive Revenue and Do Work That Makes You Proud, a Wiley publication, released Nov. 15, 2012. She has appeared on The Today Show, and has been featured in Forbes, Fortune and The Wall Street Journal. She provides executive coaching sessions, strategy workshops, and keynote speeches.
More info: www.mcleodandmore.com
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Contributor: Lisa Earle McLeod
Published here on: 07-Jun-15
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