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Blame Game
Explanations > Behaviors > Games > Blame Game Purpose | Game play | Discussion | So what?
PurposePrimary: Excuse, Displacement Secondary: Social capital Game play
DiscussionA gains several benefits from this. A is excused from what they have done (which means they can do it again). They can play 'Poor me'. A can also claim social capital as B now owes A something in return for B's apparent failure. B joins in because they can play 'Poor me' and also claim social capital. They can also play 'Your fault' in return. This game is driven by our need to explain and effects such as the Self-Serving Bias. Attribution Theory generally explains much of how and why we like to blame. A also gets to play persecutor, and get associated pleasant feelings of power. Blame games include:
So what?Watch out for being blamed and also being drawn into the game. If you blame someone, be aware of the impact of potential revenge. See also'Poor me' gGame, Attribution Theory, Self-Serving Bias, Blame vs. Explain preferences Eric Berne, (1964), Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships, Balantine Books Thomas Harris (1996), I'm OK-You're OK, Avon books |
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