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Is arrogance creeping in on you?
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by: Thejendra BS
A general dictionary defines arrogance in many ways like, “Offensive display of superiority, self-importance, overbearing pride, pompous, haughtiness, behaving in a superior manner toward inferiors, etc.”
Each one of us would have definitely seen or experienced arrogance by someone at some time. An arrogant person can impact you in many ways, and depending on your current position you may or may not be able to control such people. For example, an arrogant professor, teacher, boss or reputed personalities can make life hell for all his subordinates, and continue to behave with brazen superiority with everyone for years.
Often you will not be able to do anything because such people control your core necessities like passing exams, promotions, salary hikes, sales figures, brand, etc. But in some cases you can hit back with all your power at arrogant people. Nevertheless arrogant people in all walks of life are a pain and will be an important topic of discussion everywhere. Behind the back gossip like, "He or she has become arrogant now, but wasn’t like that before" is quite common in most workplaces, amongst friends, relatives, etc. However it does not mean arrogant people will be boorish with everyone, but they will definitely not miss an opportunity to demonstrate it on someone they can afford to be rude with.
Often the person being branded arrogant may not truly realize they have indeed become arrogant. For example, we rarely think of ourselves as being arrogant as we usually believe it is always someone else who can be arrogant, but not us. But arrogance does exist in various degrees in everyone, including you and me. Now suppose you discover that people who matter to you are calling you arrogant behind your back? Or worse, someone tells you flat on your face that you are indeed arrogant. What will be your reaction? It can rudely jolt you from the grand benevolent image you hold of yourself.
Being branded arrogant is something that nobody would like to hear. You could get furious, outraged and vehemently disagree with their opinion. Or, if you can control your senses, you can stop and think of it as a wake up call to mend your ways. Arrogance is like a special body odour that you can’t smell, but others can. But unless somebody tells you openly, or you have a mirror of snow white's stepmother you don’t get to realize it. Similar to how people recognize the harmful effects of junk food, high cholesterol, etc., it is also important to recognize some vital signs that could make one arrogant over time.
So what are those signs that can make you arrogant? Well here are seven signs that could make you arrogant over time, unless you take appropriate steps to puncture your bloated ego periodically.
Finally the challenge for each one of us is to frequently pause and observe ourselves to see if any of the above factors are making us pompous. And we can conclude with a quote from Henry W Shaw, “It is not only the most difficult thing to know oneself, but the most inconvenient one, too.”
Thejendra BS is an IT manager and author from Bangalore, India. He scribbles mild and wild articles on technology, business management, self improvement and wacky humor that get published on many reputed websites and syndicated through various RSS feeds around our planet. He has also published diverse books like Disaster Recovery & Business Continuity, Practical IT Service Management, Corporate Wardrobe-Business Humor Series and Life-365-A Year's Supply of Wisdom, Tips & Advice. Visit his web cave www.thejendra.com for his free articles and details of his books.
Contributor: Thejendra BS
Published here on: 15-Feb-09
Classification: Development, Leadership