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How to get teenagers to tidy their room
Now there's a question. How do you get a teenager to tidy up the mess that is laughingly called their bedroom. Many teens seem to get a slob disease where, even if they are smartly turned out, their accommodation resembles a pigsty. And some people never really recover and live in happy chaos, even taking the principle to work.
So what can you, who likes things tidy, do about this sorry state of affairs? Asking nicely may only get passive-aggressive agreement but without compliance. And getting angry may just provoke an argument with the only result being more stress.
Something I've done to good effect is to give quiet warning then do an indiscriminate tidy-up with a bin-bag. Aversion to a repeat of this invasion and loss can motivate cleaning up by themselves. And of course praise when they do always helps.
Some recent research suggests an interesting approach. When college students were exposed to a faint smell of a cleaning fluid of some kind, they were more likely to tidy up of their own accord. Hmm! It would be easy to try this out. If you have a messy teenager, partner or colleague, you could experiment with various smells to see if find out what works for them. Maybe also you could see you could try other smells for other purposes -- will the whiff of expensive perfume lead to romance? One might hope so.
I have an 18year old boy from Canada staying with me for a gap
year. It appears his room at home is a real mess with stuff all over the floor,
drawers hanging open, dirty laundry everywhere etc. This is how he started over
here but we set some ground rules - he must clear the floor once a week of all
clutter, then vacuum the rug and wash the floor. He must change his bed linen
once a week and he must do all of his own laundry.
So well done for setting his limits and sticking to them.
take a picky of their room and send it to their facebook friends
etc-usually does the trick
Make the teens tidy their rooms themselves but don't bug them to
much or they will not do it at all. <3 :) ;p
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