How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
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Christmas is one of those times when we feel impelled to tell the world what we've been doing and maybe our hopes for the following year (although we may keep this for the new year). To compose such as message requires a period of reflection. We think 'What have I achieve over the past twelve months?' and may be surprised at what we have done.
The British Queen has been doing Christmas messages since 1952, continuing a tradition started in 1932, in the early days of radio. Not quite so regally, a bunch of former college friends exchange 'what I did' messages in various forms. Some compose a quick email. Some produce printed documents complete with photos. I published a web page with links to photos (if you're curious, it's here).
An interesting question is what you put in such messages, which probably reflects what you found significant. The things that stand out for us tend to be those with which there is an association with stronger emotions, whether these are positive or negative. Hence the Christmas messages are often about holidays, successes, issues and traumas. We talk about work, our children, our hobbies.
This connecting at key times is important for keeping up friendships. Maybe you do it at other times, from Thanksgiving to Diwali. Whether you write or meet, it provides a synchronization point, where your update on the stories of significant others and refresh friendships and commitments.
So whether you call, write or meet family or friends this Christmas, or whether you connect at other times, do enjoy the weaving of stories and playing out of lives.
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