Breaking it off

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Description

Threaten to break off the negotiation.

You can also threaten to break off relationships. When you have a relationship with the other person, this can be particularly effective.

Do this in a dramatic way. You can even rant and rave and storm out (hopefully, they will call out to stop you or run after you).

Example

Right! That's it. I'm off.

I'm sorry. If you will not move then I can't continue.

I'm sick up to here with your intransigence and bloody-mindedness! If you can be like that, then so can I! Goodbye.

Discussion

When people do not have a walk-away alternative, which people do not, then threatening to leave makes them face up to the possibility of getting nothing. The contrast between a solution that includes them making concessions and a solution that contains nothing can resulting in the thought of making concessions something that is more acceptable.

If you have a walkaway alternative, then you can use this approach more effectively. The danger if you do not is that the other person may call your bluff.

When relationships are involved, the issue then becomes a lot more social. Ostracizing is a punishment that feared by many, and the threat of becoming a social pariah is enough to make many people cave in.