How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
'The best form of defense is attack' is a common saying and is also a common action, and when we feel threatened or attacked (even psychologically), we will attack back.
When a person feels stressed in some way, they may lash out at whoever is in the way, whether the other person is a real cause or not. They may also attack inanimate objects.
Someone criticizes me in a discussion. I angrily criticize them back.
A person is having problems with their computer. They angrily bang the keyboard.
Attack appears as a subconscious response in the fight-or-flight reaction, where we unthinkingly respond to a sudden threat with an aggressive response.
Attack is often also used in displacement, where aggressive feelings are redirected onto a substitute target.
When the other person is angry or attacks you, seek the underlying internal conflict they are feeling rather than believe that they are attacking you because you are bad in some way. In this way, you can help them recover (and also gain credibility).
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