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Imperative | Identification | Benefits | Problems | Treatment | So what?

This is one of the five drivers originally identified in the field of Transactional Analysis by Taibi Kahler. Here are some simple and useful notes on it.

Imperative

I must be perfect, wonderful, correct in every way.
I must succeed in everything I do.
I must get top marks and win.

Identification

Exact language, including qualification when they are not sure, such as 'probably', and absolutes when they are, such as 'absolutely'.
Always neat and well-groomed.
Never completely satisfied with what they do.

Benefits

Hard-working, with excellent quality output.
May achieve great things.

Problems

Fears of failure and losing control, and subsequent over-compensation.
Over-work. Not finishing things for fear of criticism.
Expecting others to be perfect too.

Treatment

Laughter.
Praise, including for less-than-perfect work.
Reframing of what 'perfect' really means to 'enough'.
Be very specific with criticism (and praise).

So what?

Recognize these drivers in yourself and others and treat them accordingly.

See also

Ellis' Irrational Beliefs, A-player problems

Kahler, T. (1975). Drivers—The Key to the Process Script. Transactional Analysis Journal, 5:3

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Disciplines

* Argument
* Brand management
* Change Management
* Coaching
* Communication
* Counseling
* Game Design
* Human Resources
* Job-finding
* Leadership
* Marketing
* Politics
* Propaganda
* Rhetoric
* Negotiation
* Psychoanalysis
* Sales
* Sociology
* Storytelling
* Teaching
* Warfare
* Workplace design

Techniques

* Assertiveness
* Body language
* Change techniques
* Closing techniques
* Conversation
* Confidence tricks
* Conversion
* Creative techniques
* General techniques
* Happiness
* Hypnotism
* Interrogation
* Language
* Listening
* Negotiation tactics
* Objection handling
* Propaganda
* Problem-solving
* Public speaking
* Questioning
* Using repetition
* Resisting persuasion
* Self-development
* Sequential requests
* Storytelling
* Stress Management
* Tipping
* Using humor
* Willpower

Principles

Explanations

* Behaviors
* Beliefs
* Brain stuff
* Conditioning
* Coping Mechanisms
* Critical Theory
* Culture
* Decisions
* Emotions
* Evolution
* Gender
* Games
* Groups
* Habit
* Identity
* Learning
* Meaning
* Memory
* Motivation
* Models
* Needs
* Personality
* Power
* Preferences
* Research
* Relationships
* SIFT Model
* Social Research
* Stress
* Trust
* Values

Theories

* Alphabetic list
* Theory types

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