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Comparing Behaviors

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Here is a summary of key differences between assertive behavior, aggressive behavior and submissive behavior. Note how the benefits and costs of aggressive and submissive behavior are sometimes the same and sometimes opposite.

One the traps of aggressive/submissive behavior is to believe that this is all there is, and you have to be one or the other. Assertive behavior is not aggressive and not submissive nor any way in between. It takes a new position in a separate place outside the one-dimensional aggressive-submissive spectrum.

Attribute	Aggressive	Submissive	Assertive
Respect for others	Low	High	High
Respect for self	High (usually)	Low	High
Key actions	Attack others Me first Hide weaknesses Exaggerate strengths Do not concede	Submit to others Me last Visible weaknesses Downplay strengths Always concede	Respect others Me and you equal Open about weaknesses and strengths Fair exchange
Perceived benefits	Get what I want Won't get harmed Will be respected	Won't get harmed Low personal risk Will be liked	Get much of what I want Will be respected Fair relationships
Likely costs	Poor relationships Subtle revenge Lost communication	Do not get what I want Low social status People take advantage	Do not get everything I want Confusion/envy of others

See also

Aggressive behavior, Submissive behavior

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Disciplines

* Argument
* Brand management
* Change Management
* Coaching
* Communication
* Counseling
* Game Design
* Human Resources
* Job-finding
* Leadership
* Marketing
* Politics
* Propaganda
* Rhetoric
* Negotiation
* Psychoanalysis
* Sales
* Sociology
* Storytelling
* Teaching
* Warfare
* Workplace design

Techniques

* Assertiveness
* Body language
* Change techniques
* Closing techniques
* Conversation
* Confidence tricks
* Conversion
* Creative techniques
* General techniques
* Happiness
* Hypnotism
* Interrogation
* Language
* Listening
* Negotiation tactics
* Objection handling
* Propaganda
* Problem-solving
* Public speaking
* Questioning
* Using repetition
* Resisting persuasion
* Self-development
* Sequential requests
* Storytelling
* Stress Management
* Tipping
* Using humor
* Willpower

Principles

Explanations

* Behaviors
* Beliefs
* Brain stuff
* Conditioning
* Coping Mechanisms
* Critical Theory
* Culture
* Decisions
* Emotions
* Evolution
* Gender
* Games
* Groups
* Habit
* Identity
* Learning
* Meaning
* Memory
* Motivation
* Models
* Needs
* Personality
* Power
* Preferences
* Research
* Relationships
* SIFT Model
* Social Research
* Stress
* Trust
* Values

Theories

* Alphabetic list
* Theory types

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