How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
'Catch me' game
Both enjoy the thrill of the chase. They also can then tell bar-room stories, such as 'Poor me' or 'Clever me', gaining appropriate sympathy. 'Poor me' is particularly useful for rich people who feel isolated or guilty about their wealth.
This game is played by many groups, from landlords and tenants to attention-seeking children and their busy parents. Children practice this in playground chase and hiding games. So do courting lovers.
As a chaser, plan your approach then stick to it - beware of being led on a merry dance. As the chased, draw chasers into the game. Give the satisfaction of having something to complain about, such that they gain pleasure from the game.
Eric Berne, (1964), Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships, Balantine Books
Thomas Harris (1996), I'm OK-You're OK, Avon books
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