How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
Lake Wobegon Effect
We tend to over-estimate our abilities and achievements, particularly in comparison with other people.
Most importantly, we like to consider ourselves 'above average'. High achievers (or those who consider themselves to be such) think themselves in the top X percent, where X may be 25, 10, 5, 2 or 1, depending on the frame of reference.
This happens largely because we derive our sense of self-worth in contrast with other people. Thus, rather than considering myself 'good', I actually seek to be 'better'.
Lake Wobegon appears in the radio series 'A Prairie Home Companion', by Garrison Keillor, where "all the children are above average".
This effect has been found in many studies, for example Zuckerman and Jost found that most students considered themselves more popular than average.
I am a consultant and am therefore more knowledgeable about most areas than all of my clients. I am also cleverer than most other consultants.
Flatter people by recognizing them as above average or deflate them by being honest about how average they are.
Look in the mirror and know that you are not perfect. Accept this and accept yourself. Beware of acting cleverer than you are and hence appearing stupid to others.