How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
People who become romantic partners tend to have a similar level of physical attractiveness. This also tends to be true about normal friends.
This does not work when one person has particularly low self-esteem. If I don’t like myself, then I won’t like other people who are like me. Also, in times of uncertainty, we may prefer someone different who is more likely to be able to handle the uncertainty.
Walter et al. ran a 'computer dating' dance where people were actually matched up with others, based on attractiveness criteria. Those who were of similar attractiveness were more likely to continue dating afterwards.
Look at the romantic partners you know--are they generally of similar physical attractiveness? Chances are that the majority will be.
If your level of physical attractiveness is different from the person you want to partner with, take action! Dress differently. If you’re desperate, consider plastic surgery.
Look beyond attractiveness! Beauty is only skin deep. Find out those other things which are important before making any lasting commitments.