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Aligned Integrity

 

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Description

Be true to yourself. Know your values and stick with them, even if it may seem sometimes advantageous to break these inner rules.

Align your actions with your beliefs. If you believe something should be done, then do it. If you believe something should not be done, do not do it.

If there is conflict between your beliefs, for example what you believe is right and what you believe you deserve do not match, then change something. Bring your beliefs into alignment with one another.

And do to all this, you have to deeply understand your  beliefs and values.

Discussion

Much of the tension we feel in life is related to a lack of internal alignment between beliefs and between our values and actions.

A problem with sustaining integrity is that it often seems to lead us to disadvantage, at least in the short term. Yet if you think about the people you have admired in life, you will likely name those who have high personal integrity, and you may notice that they are seldom unhappy.

Integrity gains you friends. Lack of integrity destroys trust, loses friends and accumulates enemies and those who seek justice.

Living with integrity means living comfortably with yourself and your conscience, which will punish you for breaking your values.

Kifer et al (2013) found that while striving for power can reduce subjective well-being, having power can lead to happiness through the ability to align one's values and actions in what they note as 'authenticity'. This gives reason for seeking power as a means to aligned authenticity, although not all in power seem to find this value, particularly those who fear losing power and constantly seek more and to hold onto what they have.

See also

Values, Beliefs, Care-Behavior Matrix, Alignment principle, Trust principle, True self, false self

 

Kifer, Y., Heller, D., Perunovic, W.Q.E. and Galinsky, A.D. The Good Life of the Powerful: The Experience of Power and Authenticity Enhances Subjective Well-Being, Psychological Science, first published on January 15, 2013 as doi:10.1177/0956797612450891

 

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