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Understand Yourself
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DescriptionWhen you are thinking about persuading other people, it can be very helpful if you can take time to understand yourself and your motivation. If you can do this, you will be better able to persuade. Four key and deep factors to understand are:
In this consider what it is you exactly want from the interaction and why this is so. What are you really seeking? Why? Also consider external forces on you, for example pressures from home, work, friends, the law and so on. This includes what you seek and how you seek it. Many of our actions are driven by what other people want. Understanding this can make our persuasive choices much clearer. ExampleIn personal reflection about wanting to ask a woman on a date, a man thinks about how he really feels about her, how he should behave on the date and what impression he wants to create. A sales person builds self-confidence (and consequently engenders confidence in others) by knowing herself deeply. To help this, she undergoes a set of personality tests and reflects on the findings in order to know and accept herself better. DiscussionOf course understanding yourself is a lifetime's work and few of us get close to this. Yet when you are seeking to persuade, it can still be helpful to pause and wonder what you want from the persuasion. This in itself does not need much understanding, but when you ask 'why?' (especially repeatedly), you may find you very quickly get into the detail of your own psychological makeup. This can create insights that change how you go about the persuasive process. See alsoCulture, Identity, Motivation, Power
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