How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
Fear happens to all of us. It is, perhaps, nature's way of stopping us from doing things that may hurt us, such as leaning out from a high cliff or trying to fight someone bigger than us.
Fear can range from a little scare to paralyzing terror. At best, we feel some muscular tension. At worst, our muscles either go completely rigid or totally flaccid. Either way, we collapse - possibly losing the content of our bowels on the way. Fainting from fear is not uncommon, perhaps as the brain switches off rather than countenance further terror.
A little fear can also be quite exciting, for example when we are riding a roller-coaster, where we cognitively know we are safe whilst deliberately triggering automatic fear reactions in order to experience the thrill of the adrenalin rush as we hurtle around the track.
Fear also has a duration element which has different effects. A short, sharp shock grabs our attention and makes us jump, whilst low-level anxiety can wear us down over a long period.
We can also suffer from extreme fears in irrational phobias such as the fear of spiders, open spaces, food and so on.
Fear is the opposite of desire, in that desire attracts whilst fear repels.
Fear is triggered by an immediate and obvious threat, such as when a person points a gun in your face. When this happens, the amygdala may well trigger an automatic response that does not even give you time to think (which can be a good thing -- you don't have time to muse about what to do when a lion is jumping out at you). A person who has had their amygdala (where fear is triggered) removed not only loses their fear but also their ability to recognize anger.
Sound is a primitive trigger of fear and the roar of a lion or the scream of a terrified child can send shivers down your spine. The sound of danger or the fear of others implies an imminent threat and so fear is triggered to elicit a desire for escape and survival.
Our need for control is, to some extent, fear-driven. If I cannot control the world around me, it may threaten me. Just my forecast of this is enough to cause me to fear.
Pessimism leads to fear, as we habitually forecast that we will fail or that bad things will happen to us. Because we can never fully forecast the future, we may live in a permanent state of fear.
Much has been made of the fear of death, which we know we will all ultimately face. Samurai warriors were famed for having no fear of death and would even commit suicide at the whim of their masters.
Fear can also happen from confusion, which happens when we are unable to infer meaning. The logic of this goes something like 'I can't find any meaning. I don't know if it will harm me. I'd better feel frightened, just in case.'
When people recognize something fearful a common response is to get away from it somehow. If, however, the subject of fear is vague and there is no clear escape, then a common alternative response is to deny the fear, pretending that it does not exist.
Fear is probably the ultimate negative motivators and is thus often used to move people, although this is an avoidance method that can lead to unpredictable results. Sheep fear a sheepdog - the result is that they scatter in all directions, which is not what the sheepdog really wants.
The unsubtle approach to using is physical threat. More subtle methods use hints and insinuations of social exclusion or other things we seek to avoid.
Fear is thus useful when you want to move a person away from something. It can also be used to shake them out of their current complacency. Fear is a push strategy. It is often best followed up with something that pulls the other person towards the desired objective.
Type of Fear, Appeal to Fear, Fear and Persuasion, General Adaptation Syndrome, The Amygdala by-pass system, Operant Conditioning, The Fear of Public Speaking, Fight-or-Flight Reaction, Push principle, Threat principle, Anger and Fear
Lazarus, R. and Lazarus, B. (1994), Passion and Reason, Oxford University Press, New York
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